How to Run a Friendship Skills Small Group at School

A friendship group should teach observable skills and create supported practice—not imply that selected students are responsible for all peer difficulties. Screen for bullying, safety, communication needs, and group fit before enrollment.

In brief: Choose two or three measurable goals, use brief teaching plus repeated practice, connect each skill to real settings, and collect student and teacher feedback.

Define the Target

Avoid a goal such as “make friends.” Choose behaviors: joining an activity, asking before changing a game, responding to “no,” repairing after conflict, or recognizing when someone wants space.

Use a Repeatable Session Structure

For 30–40 minutes:

1. predictable check-in;
2. review of last practice;
3. one short teaching point;
4. role-play with varied outcomes;
5. feedback and retry;
6. one real-world plan;
7. closing regulation and preview.

Protect Privacy

Do not require students to disclose current friendship conflicts in front of peers. Use fictional or composite scenarios. Establish limits of confidentiality and safeguarding procedures clearly.

Generalize Beyond the Room

Coordinate one discreet prompt with classroom or recess staff. Practice in the actual setting when appropriate. Track whether the skill appears without the counselor, not just whether worksheets are completed.

Avoid Script Dependence

Vary partner responses. A polite entry phrase may still receive “not now.” Teach coping and alternative action rather than promising that correct words control peers.

Related SafeSEL Guides

• Elementary SEL small group
• Friendship skills for kids
• Conflict resolution for kids
• Browse friendship resources

Sources

• CASEL: SEL Framework
• StopBullying.gov: Support the Kids Involved
• CDC: Promoting Mental Health in Schools