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How to Help a Child Check an Anxious Thought

A simple, child-friendly way to slow down worry, check the facts and build a more balanced thought without dismissing the feeling.

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When a child is anxious, the goal is not to argue the worry away. A more useful first step is to help the child slow down, notice the thought and look for evidence.

1. Name the thought

Invite the child to put the worry into one sentence. For example: “I think everyone will laugh at me.”

2. Check the facts

Ask what supports the thought, what does not support it and whether there are other possible explanations.

3. Build a balanced thought

A balanced thought should feel believable, not falsely positive. For example: “I may feel nervous, but most people are focused on themselves and I can get through the presentation.”

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